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It is my sincere hope that sharing my perspective and personal experiences on my own journey to myself, helps you on yours.

OUR HAPPINESS HELPS LIFT THE SPIRITS OF OTHERS

24/9/2012

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Many have been struggling in this heart opening energy at times while others are feeling more free than they ever have.  And that's okay. We feel how we feel.

Sometimes we can feel like we don't have a 'right' to feel happy and joyful when others are moving through tough emotions like sadness, anger and grief, but we do.  It's important to remember that we are each on our own journey and that will bring what it brings.  Our individual times and experiences of pain and struggle are there for us to move through and recognize as opportunities to become a stronger version of ourselves.  We all experience our times of struggle and pain at different times.  It's important for us to have compassion for the people in our world (some we know, some we don't) who are being pushed into uncomfortable territory for their soul's growth, but we don't have to take it on because it's not ours.

Humans sometimes 'feel bad' when they are experiencing joy and happiness in their world while others are suffering.  What if our happiness and joy energy is helping to carry others through their hard times?  It wouldn't be productive to feel bad for feeling good if that is the case.  If we can be in our high spirit energy without guilt we can use it knowing we are lifting the energy of others while they are down.  When we are down they might be up and helping to lift our energy.  Even though it is an 'unseen' thing, doesn't mean it's not happening?!

So if you are going through a difficult time in your life, know that others along with Spirit are helping to carry you.  And if you are happy and high on life...bask in it!!  Get as high as you can without feeling bad, knowing that you are helping to carry them.

It's all about living in our hearts right now.  When I went through some of my hardest times, spinning in a deep dark hole not seeing even a glimmer of light, I can see now I was being broken open.  Being made to 'feel' even though those feelings didn't feel good at ALL.  They were still feelings.  Something I'd spent most of my life trying my hardest to avoid.  I'm grateful now and can see so clearly that our hearts must be cracked open in order to let the light in.  That's why we came here.  To live in our hearts and it's happening, it just doesn't always feel good at the time.  Those harder times also showed me who the people were who gave a shit and had my back.  I wouldn't trade that for anything now because I had things all mixed up.

Our hardest experiences are often there for us to grow through and heal from so we can help others once we are in a good place again.  We can't do that if we let our experiences break us down...we can only have compassion for ourselves and move through them keeping in mind that we are being role models for the others.  Mostly our young ones.  If they see us get healthy and strong through our painful times, it gives them hope.  If we give up, they give up.  They will be the leaders one day.

If you're happy and high on life...SOAR, laugh, and play and don't feel bad about it.  Our happiness is infectious and contagious!  If you're experiencing hard emotions now or lately, hang on, keep the faith, and you will move through it to a better place. You'll see.

Peace, Love and Happiness




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LABELLING THE 'GIFTED' AS CRAZY

17/9/2012

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One day I arrived at Starbucks where I was waiting to meet a friend who was running late. Only myself and another table of people where in the coffee shop as I waited.  The other table consisted of a mother with two young ones and somebody she was apparently interviewing for a job.  I thought it interesting one would have their kids accompany them to a job interview but that's none of my business.  

My focus at one point moved to the oldest of the kids, I'm guessing he was approximately four but could see his soul was wiser than most.  Mama bear was busy paying attention to the interviewee while the kids quietly occupied themselves, quite amazingly so.  As I was nudged to look up at the young one at one point I noticed he could see energy.  I giggled with my inside voice as I proceeded to watch his eyes chasing the energy bubbles that appeared only to him.  He was darting his eyes around and then he started to 'pop' and 'flick' the energy bubbles with his hands.  As I happily watched him playing with Spirit and energy, I thought to myself, how many people would label this child 'crazy' or immediately 'assume' something was wrong with him?  

In our society some parents or people begin to worry about a child's 'abnormal' behaviour it seems, and off to the medical system they go to determine what is 'wrong' with their child who has an invisible friend or sees the unseen in general.  A medical system that is not equipped with a belief system that honors their special gifts.  One that usually is quick to diagnose them with some medical issue and prescribe drugs so the child fits into society's idea of 'normal'.

I remember when I was a young girl, seeing energy in different colors. Oftentimes at night I would wake up and see the lights dancing high in the room I was sleeping in.  I would get a little freaked out sometimes and cry.  My mother would come to comfort me and tell me I was hallucinating, that it was my imagination.  I'm sure she had no idea and figured I was having nightmares but I was awake when I saw the energy, just too young to explain it so she could understand.  I believe I 'turned off' those gifts at that point as I was not validated and it took me my lifetime to come to understand my intuitive gifts.

Now that I own my gifts, and speak openly about my experiences, I have had many young ones feel safe enough to come to me with their stories.  Some hear the trees talking, some see energy coming from their hands, some see auras, some have prophetic dreams, some see spirits, guides, angels and fairies, and some can touch a tree or an object and immediately see a movie in their minds about the energy that place carries and the history of what went on there.  I listen with an open ear and get excited about their specific gifts.  They feel relieved they have finally told someone and more importantly, they feel validated.  

If they tell the 'wrong' people about their experiences, they could end up being carted off to the doctors and end up taking prescription drugs which actually numbs their intuition. Yet it is their intuition that will help them, and us survive on this Earth.  We all have it but we don't all honor it because we've been labelled weird or crazy. I've even personally experienced some religious people saying we/they are talking to the devil?  That was new to me, not being raised any religion and having little knowledge of the bible, I had no idea this was being taught to the masses.  I can assure you I'm not talking to the devil.  Neither are these kids.  I don't judge those people for their take on it, we all get to believe what we want.

I think many of these very wise souls who are in young human form here have come with great purpose at this time on Earth.  What if we created a safe space for them to speak about their experience without fear of judgement or being labelled as crazy?  What if we talked to them about their experiences, even if there was some fear about it on our part? What if we encouraged their visions and helped them to develop themselves on this level?  Many of these kids have chosen parents who believe in more that what the eye can see so they can do just that.  Others have chosen paths where they feel judged and ridiculed by the people in their world.  Maybe you could be that one person who changes how one of these kids sees themselves.  

I believe they are wise souls, as are we, who chose this human experience now, as did we.  The strongest of the strong are here to help save the Earth, please validate them so they may shine their light and create a beautiful place for them to express themselves freely.  They are our future. 


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SHINING OUR LIGHT

10/9/2012

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"Do not chase people.  Do your own thing and work hard.  The right people who belong in your life, will come to you." ~ Wu Tang

This is so true.  Some people are trying so hard to be a rock star but no one knows what they're gonna do when they get there?  Wanting to get the attention and the light shone our way before we know how it is we would use that spotlight to use our lives to serve the greater whole, is backwards from where I sit.  I think finding one's light (gifts, talents, and 'you'ness') has to come first, so we have a strong and solid foundation on which to base everything we do. 

Shining our light doesn't mean seeking attention.  It means being confident with ourselves and sharing who we are with others in a humble way.  It's interesting to observe the human behavior of trying to 'impress', seeking attention at all cost, like shooting cannons from the lighthouse even though the boats are going to see you no matter what.  It's interesting because trying to impress people actually comes from a place of insecurity and thinking we're not good enough just the way we are. It can come across as arrogance, narcissistic, and self absorbed but those are masks that cover up deep insecurity and feelings of inadequacy.  Living our lives trying to impress will often times attract people who seek to take our energy.  Being who we really are will attract like minded people who are walking a similar path of integrity.

Seeking credit or quietly performing a random act of kindness?  Talking over everyone or being quiet and paying attention to others? Trying to impress or just being yourself?  Telling stories about your life or asking someone about their life?

It takes courage to continue on our own path...one that is true to us because sometimes the people in our lives don't want us to become our true selves.  Continue on the path that is true to you anyway.  In the end it is only ourselves we have to answer to.  

I set out to 'find myself' a few years ago when life wasn't working and my soul nagged at me daily that there was something bigger for me to do here.  I find myself today calling myself an Artist (which I believe we all are in some form) and I SO didn't see that coming.  I used to do charcoal sketches as a young girl because I found peace in that and most people in my world didn't even know I drew!  A twist of fate on my journey to myself, led me to six months of solitude on an island in Washington State last winter.  My childhood friend needed a house sitter for their house on an acreage there.  This was a miracle for me as I'd been moving from place to place never knowing how I would eat some days or where I might lay my head.  I had no idea what this experience would be about, as usual, I knew it would be life altering and it was. Before she left to begin her new life in Northern California, she told me she felt guided to leave me her sketch pad, two pencils and an eraser.  I thought to myself, ok...thanks but I'm sure I came here to write.  Six months later I came back to Canada with eight drawings which are now available for purchase and are hanging on people's walls!! Sometimes I look at them and think 'did I do that?'.  While I understand completely that I am merely a vessel in human form that Spirit uses to create through, I am humbled and grateful to have that venue to shine my light.  

I am sharing that part of story, in hopes of offering you inspiration on your own journey.  We've all come here with gifts to share and they're all completely unique to us.  I should share too, that I've experienced much change by way of relationships falling away, hearing others' opinions of how I 'should' be living my life, and I've felt others' resistance to my changing and even jealously and attack.  I've also experienced knowing who fully supports me on my path, encourages me and lifts me up.  I changed anyway....cuz in the end it's myself I have to answer to. :)

Our true light come from just being us.  Being ourselves.  No one else can do that, only us!  Shine on, shine on!

Peace, Love and Shiney'ness.....


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Finding Peace by Way of Acceptance

3/9/2012

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We've all heard the Serenity Prayer.  "God (Creator, Universe) grant me the serenity to ACCEPT the things I cannot change, the COURAGE to change the things I can, and the WISDOM to know the difference."  I think it's a beautiful prayer.  I also think it's been said and read so much, that it's not always being 'applied' in our lives.  We humans tend to read words, say words, or understand words but we aren't always aware if we are actually living them.  It's one thing to have and share knowledge, it's quite another to apply it to our lives!

It's interesting when I observe myself in a 'struggle' now and again, and realize how simple the solution can sometimes be to simply let go. When the serenity prayer is not just said, but applied to my life....wow, it's like an immediate shift takes place.  When I notice any inner struggle surface, I ask 'can I change this'?  If the answer is yes, then I've asked for the courage and I'm willing to make the necessary changes.  If the answer is no, I can simply accept it and let the struggle go!!  Easy peasy.  ACCEPTANCE.  

The simple act of ACCEPTANCE can be so freeing!  Sometimes things just ARE and we have no control over them!!  It's amazing how much energy it actually takes to try to control everything or want things to be, or turn out a certain specific way.  Believe me I used to be a HUGE control freak and God help anyone who was around me the day my plans went for a shit!!  I would FREAK OUT!  I remember getting bumped off a flight once in Toronto, back in my control freak days.  Air Canada had over sold the flight and it didn't matter if we had full paid tickets or not (which we did) the flight was over sold.  Instead of taking it all in stride and 'accepting' the situation, (which i would do now in a heartbeat, fully understanding there is a bigger picture that I can't see) I lost it on that airline agent.  I am not proud of my behavior as I proceeded to have a hissy fit, but I was who I was back then and now I know better so I do better!  As it turned out, the airline ended up providing us with a beautiful hotel room with meals included, a free flight for future use, and we were booked to leave the following morning on the same flight path.  Do you think I could enjoy it??  No, I couldn't, because I chose to be pissed off all night instead!  Had I simply stopped, taken a deep breath and 'applied' the serenity prayer in that situation, simply accepting what I couldn't change, I would have enjoyed the 'free stuff', saved the flight agent the attack, and my ex-husband the embarrassment!

I probably have a thousand other instances where I could have applied acceptance and saved myself and others a lot of grief but that's one example.  I've learned that one of the most powerful places to apply 'acceptance' is when we are wanting other people to change.  If we apply the serenity prayer where other people are concerned we realize we must accept others exactly how they are because we cannot change other people!  We can only change ourselves.

Sometimes we humans prefer to stay in the struggle because it's like an old familiar friend.  We can become addicted to those old familiar ways regardless of how unhealthy they are for us.  No one said change was easy!! (or life for that matter) *sigh*  ;-)  Sometimes when we get a glimpse of inner peace or joy, it can freak us out so we find ourselves choosing  our comfortable place of control or struggle. However if we are willing to make these small changes and incorporate new ways of doing things, more inner peace is definitely attainable.  I know this from experience.

So you might wanna try acceptance on for size today, this week, or every chance you get...see what happens.  Oh and don't forget the most important acceptance...that of yourself...exactly as you are right now.  It's a great starting point in becoming the person you really want to be.

Peace, Love and Acceptance ..... 


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